I come for advice.I'm a freshman at college, a small liberal arts college. There are about 300 freshman in the class of 2014.The problem starts here. I met a girl in Arabic class, she is the friend of another girl I knew in Arabic. That other girl proceeded to drop Arabic, so now it is just Girl A and I.Girl A and I live in the same dorms just a floor apart. We always do homework together, our personalities are quite similar, and from what I can tell we both thoroughly enjoy spending time together. On the weekends I usually have breakfast with her. Today we both slept outside on the campus, our campus is beautiful and so was the weather. I also often hang out with her at the college pool, she is a lifeguard there. I'm pretty sure she knows I like though I haven't said anything.Here are my problems. I'm rather emotionally inept due to how I grew up and I find it extremely difficult to trust and confide in people.Though, I want to talk to her about this, I'm finding it difficult. The biggest barrier for me is knowing the fact that she has a boyfriend in her hometown, he is a year younger and still in high school.That's why I'm absolutely terrified of what would happen if I did talk to her. As I said before I have trouble brining myself close to people, but I've completely fallen for her and I don't want to be alone again.To me she is like the sunlight always bright and warm yet whenever I reach out to grasp her hand I find myself holding air.P.s. Should I let it slip somehow that I can sing quite well ?
just fucking do itwhats the worst that can happen
Take everything you just said to us.And say it to her.
>>272139There is that.Though, would it be better to go easy till something happens or be more fierce and make something happen.
Sing her a beautiful ballad, explaining your deepest heartfelt feelings and fears.Then she will know everything, and your angel singing will make her instantly fall in love with you and you will marry and have a wonderful liberal arts life reading Bukowski or whatever you guys do.Here, try this song:http://vocaroo.com/?media=vbqRKFCLfF5l8iuQ7
>>272137I was going to give you advice. But I want you to do this instead. >>272142 And tell us how it goes.
>>272142::sarcasm:: Dear god, yes I think this might be it. ::sarcasm::>>272140I just don't want to move to fast and ruin everything. Though, I have no idea what I'm doing at the moment either.
>>272141if you wait youll be waiting forever. plus being proactive is sexy
>Today we both slept outside on the campusYup, sounds like something liberals would do.
Don't be a pussy, make a move already. >>272147Oh lawd.
>>272144Move fast with your devotion to her, be slow with how much affection you show towards her. There's romantic and then there's stalker. Measure your actions to her responses. A single rose to ask her out is good, a dozen is over the top, a dozen dozen is creepy.
Tell her how you feel. She seems understanding, seems like the worst case scenario would be her being all "uuuuuh so'z bro but I do not reciprocate. S'at coo'?"
>>272149Wow. Well put.
>>272137
Just ask her to some fun activity, just the two of you. She will get the hint. Like everyone else said, the worst thing she can do is say no; it can be tempting to avoid rejection by never putting yourself out there, but the long drawn out uncertainty will be ten times worse. >To me she is like the sunlight always bright and warm yet whenever I reach out to grasp her hand I find myself holding air. You're cute.
Listen to this song.Listen to this song for a good goddamn while.Then you'll have your answer.
Don't consider starting a romantic relationship with her until you get to know each other better. She needs to know you're a bit emotionally distant without having it just sprung on her. Let her find out on her own and if she sticks around then see what happens.
>>272213I second this heartily.
She'll cheat on you.All people are whores, including our parents. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.Women especially.
>>272385>MY PARENTS ARE WHOOORESI'm going to go ahead and use Syndrome logic on your Frank Miller statement. Relax. It's not as bad as you think. People will often like sex but not every kid knows how to play with with other children. Some people do. Hopefully you do, as well.
>>272403Nah, all whores.All of us.
>>272405
>>272410Not really appropriate...or relevant, actually...
>>272412Closest I could find. I was hoping for the cute one of Rorschach eating cookies and saying "Whores, Daniel", but couldn't find it. :-/
>>272405Yeah, but sometimes you can just be whores for each other.
>>272385Well, if she's Muslim not really.
If you wait too long, there's a possibility that she won't be able to see you as anything more than a friend.But, >>272149 got it pretty spot on.
>>272137>she has a boyfriend in her hometownYou don't cut another mans lunch, son.
>>272604happened to me. apparently it's fair game even if it ruins a guy's life for ~9 months.
>>272147I like you.
>>272604Never rub another man's rhubarb.
>>272668Never coax another man's bird.
>>272605Me too. Doesn't make it right though.
>>272682Never spook another man's chicken
>>272689Seriously. It might interrupt her egg-layin'!
>>272688>~there is no justice in the wooooorld~don't forget that the girl has a choice in the matter, too. it all leaves a bad taste in my mouth, but nothing's set in stone, even the most important relationships and people in your life. don't get me wrong. i'm not jaded and i'm not saying to never fall in love. that's bullshit. i'm just more practical now. instead of blaming everyone including myself, i'm moving on and trying to look out for the games people play. also, i swear to god if i'm ever in love with someone like that again, i won't put hundreds of miles between us short of a gun to my head.
>>272692Oh, there's plenty of justice. The dude committed suicide for whatever reason and my ex was miserable for months. I'm just saying, just because some people do it, that doesn't make it right. I say, if you really want her and she really wants you, make sure she's finished with whoever she was with before, don't play games.
>>272438I'm gonna agree on this.