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268813 No.268813
Raising children is said to be rewarding. What they don't tell you is that the reward is grandchildren, which is just the fun parts of parenthood with little to none of the responsibility.

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No.268852
>>268851
That is bad trolling, and you know it. 2/10

No.268853
>>268844
What I got from that is that your sister is your mother and that everyone in your family gets pregnant pretty early.

Alaska or Arkansas?

No.268857
>>268851
She's just looking for the right person to go all mushy with. I doubt she would drown her own babby.

No.268858
Babies babies babies

No.268859
>>268849
yeah i'm confus, too, wut
>>268850
>that picture
:I not such a good mental image for baby making.
i wasn't suggesting we keep the damn things. maybe we can pass them off to Red if she doesn't want to help us make them.

No.268862
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268862
>>268857
>She's just looking for the right person to go all mushy with.

N-no I'm not! I'm a cold hard killer who is sophisticated with a touch of high class! I mean, it's not like I want someone I can cook for or to rub my feet when it's cold or to tell me when I'm on booger alert. I don't even have my baby names picked out yet, honestly!

No.268865
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268865
>>268862
oh tooth...
one day we'll all be allowed to have feelings again.

No.268867
babbies are


just ok

No.268878
I guess I am...technically an uncle, I keep forgetting.

And my nephews live just down the street, but I never visit them. I should go visit them some time.

No.268883
I raised a baby for a few months.
You spend nearly all day waiting for the little fuck to go to sleep in the evening so you can get some time to yourself, then you stay up late because you were busy all day caring for it and want to do stuff, before being woken up at stupid o'clock to do it all again as you gradually grow more and more tired through the week, until you learn the best option is to keep the little bastard up as late as possible so it sleeps in and you get time to fucking rest.
Yeah, child rearing is so rewarding.

No.268885
Pro-tip for baby taking care of: Don't leave your baby unsupervised in a rocker sitting on the end of a kitchen counter.

No.268903
>>268862
>I want someone I can cook for or to rub my feet when it's cold or to tell me when I'm on booger alert
aww

True love

No.268932
ITT: People talking about things most of them don't really know about/never experienced.

These baby threads are getting kind of old.

No.268940
I want everyone around me to have kids so I can visit, tell corrupting stories about drugs and drink and adventure that their parents will hate me for, and finally don my sunglasses and drive off on a motorcycle. I'll be their Sirius Black. They will say, "If Ticker was my mom, things would be different around here." But they wouldn't be. They'd still only see me once in a blue moon, and I'd leave when shit gets too real. When they get older, they'll realize that their parents were the ones who had their back the whole time, and I'm just an undependable rolling stone. Sometimes you gotta eat your vegetables, but all I've got is candy. Hasta la vista, baby.

No.268966
Lately, my maternal instinct has been RAGING. Like, little adorable girls who come into my store and are so well behaved and funny and smart and oh my god I want one of my own aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

No.268967
BABIES BABIES BABIES BABIES OH MY GOD OH MY GOD

OH MY GOD

In all seriousness, love kids, cannot have one quickly enough, really shouldn't want one this early in my life.

No.268968
Is it wrong that I want to have children so that I can raise them to be better people than I am so as to make up for the harm that I've done?

No.268970
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268970
ENTIRE THREAD IS BABIES.

No.268971
I'm autistic. High-functioning, to the point where most people don't know unless I tell them.

As much as I'd love to help raise a family, I don't think it'd be right to put a child at risk with my damaged DNA.

No.268972
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268972
>>268971
>He thinks behavioral disorders are genetic!

No.268974
>>268972
how do you know they're not?

No.268975
>>268972
>>268974
They are. My children, if I were to have any, would be put severely at risk of being born autistic, and not necessarily high-functioning, either.

I would love to have a family, but I'm not cruel enough to risk bringing a disabled child into a world that's automatically set against him or her.

No.268977
>>268972
Autism definitely has a strong genetic component.

(And so do many, many other mental disorders but autism more so than most.)

No.268986
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268986
Kids are fine, in small doses. I don't want any myself, however.

I don't think people take parenting very seriously, at least the young couples I see. They see babbies and think babbies are cute, but it's the same with a puppy or kitten. They're cute when they're little, but then they grow up. If you're not prepared for the lifelong responsibility that follows, then don't form babbies, or adopt puppies or kittens either for that matter.

No.268990
>>268975

Dude, just put it off for a few years, and eventually they'll have designer babies. They could take your genetic material, swap out the bad genes, and make petri dish babby then inplant it in your wife or gf or a surrogate. Your good genes, but not your bad ones, in an adorable offspring!

Meh, I don't know. I'm probably gonna end up either marrying my current gf, who can't have kids, and/or going on the 'mones (or killing myself), so I guess kids aren't in the picture for me until then either. And then it'll probably be expensive as fuck. Just as well. I'm in even worse genetic straits. Alcoholism, short temper, poor immune system, allergies, obesity, terrible judgment, generally all being unlikeable dicks. Last thing I should do is bring a kid with my shitty genes and my dysfunctional family into this dysfunctional world.

No.268993
>>268975
>>268990
Adoptions! Lots of unwanted kids need good homes.

No.268996
The standards I have for myself before ever being capable of reproduction and the current outlook for my financial/employed future indicate: I'll probably never reproduce.

Unless I can build or buy a 3-5 bedroom number, pre-empt the cost of any dental problems or broken bones or stuff like that, ain't gonna happen. I needs a real job, and I needs it 8 years ago. :X

No.269032
>>268990
>Dude, just put it off for a few years, and eventually they'll have designer babies. They could take your genetic material, swap out the bad genes, and make petri dish baby then implant it in your wife or GF or a surrogate. Your good genes, but not your bad ones, in an adorable offspring!
I've actually considered this, but I'd have to find a partner willing to raise a science-baby, and I wouldn't know where to find a woman like that.

>>268993
>Adoptions! Lots of unwanted kids need good homes.
This is also something that I've considered, but again, I'd have to find a partner open to the idea, and what woman would want a man that can't give her a child of her own flesh and blood?

No.269033
>>268971
Just get together with a really healthy and outgoing woman who is somewhat stupid, maybe your kids will be balanced out. Seriously though, you can get your kid (read: blastoma) tested with a genechip for ~9,000 a pop.

But there is no solid proof that autism is genetic, just implications that it might be. So you need to ask yourself, are you willing to throw away your life, family, legacy, all that on an assumption?

No.269039
>>268993
Seriously, why do so many people hate adoption? It seems people would rather do artificial insemination than adopt. Women are birthing litters like freaking dogs while more and more orphans need loving homes. And why take a risk on all the problems that can go wrong during development and miscarriages and go through the whole hell that is pregnancy and childbirth when you could get a baby without all that?

I'm definitely planning on adopting babies once I find a nice rich wife and buy a Ferrari. So, probably never.

No.269041
>>269032
>what woman would want a man that can't give her a child of her own flesh and blood?
There are so many things wrong with a woman who thinks that I can't even.

No.269043
>>269039
Answered your own question.

No.269044
>>269041
?????????
4 million years of evolution would like to call your opinion a dumbass

No.269045
>>269044
We don't have the same problems reproducing right now that we did four million years ago. At this point in human evolution, a few hundred people deciding to take in parentless kids instead of making more isn't going to hurt anything. And flat out insisting on doing everything possible to make more is just silly.

No.269051
>>269045
i like u. sankyu.

No.269064
>>269043
how so?

I just mean I'd rather have cars than kids. All the love and devotion, none of the crying and pooping and teenage rebellion. And no way in hell would Iet any of my dumb teen kids drive my cars.

No.269082
>>269045
I know it's irrational, but as I said parents who chiefly adopt definitively didn't and don't pass on their genes.

>>269064
Exactly, kids are already a hassle, nuisance and huge resource hogs.
Why have one which isn't yours? Most of the actual kids come from "accidents" (not planned) which the parents take in stride.

No.269107
>>269039
- It's expensive
- It's a very lengthy process
- With surrogates and insemination, the cost is about the same, but the wait is a lot shorter, and a lot less paperwork. Adoption is a ridiculous maze of ridiculous bureaucracy

- The likely hood of getting a baby is minimal, especially a white baby
- Statistically, it's more white couples that adopt. And there's a stigma against raising kids not of your race, although people like Jolie have softened that. But it's like a rant I posted a while back over a family picture, with a white couple with a black baby. Everyone assumes that woman cheated. Also, a lot of people don't feel culturally comfortable raising a kid that doesn't share their background.

- Most kids who need adoption are emotionally damaged.
-A large amount of them are actually still in contact with their mothers, who are usually horrible/sad people. Foster care is shit. And if a kid makes it to 5 without getting adopted, his chances are pretty much halved each year after that. It's hard to raise an adopted kid, especially an older one, and a good amount of people are unable, unwilling or just plain scared to put in the extra effort.
Plus all those urban legends about 'I adopted this kid and we were great for ten years and then he lit my bed on fire because when he was five months his real mother hit him', shit like that.

- The belief that you can't love a child as much if it's not your own.
- Yeah. A lot of people believe this, sadly.

I plan on adopting. I want about three kids, and I'm going to have the first one and adopt the second and seeing about the third, but even I'm wary about adopting a toddler or older.

No.269110
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269110
>Everyone assumes that woman cheated.
Agree, it could have easily been a case of the man cheating and then being saddled with the baby from some black woman.

You should adopt all black babies.

No.269113
>>269107
yeah, I guess there's plenty of good reasons. I've done a bit of volunteer work at orphanages so it's just really frustrating personally for me.

The truth is I'd be a horrible parent and would only put a kid in an even worse situation. At least ones in an orphanage have a chance, they'd be screwed with me ):

No.269153
I was able to have the typical 'token black' friend growing up because an elderly white couple decided to adopt him. Which in retrospect was very ballsy for an elderly white couple to do in 1980s/1990s Maine.
He remains one of my best friends to this day, despite the fact our interests have grown apart and we live a great distance away.

I also have a great deal of respect for surrogates, but I'm afraid it's being cheapened to just a surreal business.. and that is very sad.

No.269349
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269349
>>269153

>I also have a great deal of respect for surrogates, but I'm afraid it's being cheapened to just a surreal business.. and that is very sad.

Oh, you have no fucking idea. My aunt fosters kids. She makes them sleep in an un-air conditioned shed that she locks them in at night. She makes them do chores and feeds them on Kraft Mac-n-cheese, dollar-menu orders, and that generic cereal that comes in giant bags. She doesn't give them birthday parties or presents at Christmas. It's fucking disgusting.

No.269351
>>269349
By surrogates, I meant women who carry a fetus because another woman can't for health or other biological reasons.

I read more on the subject for a little failed and since canned project I was doing, and learned some uncomfortable stuff about how that type of surrogacy is becoming a growing business in India. :\

No.269353
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269353
>>269351

Oh, sorry. Yes, it would seem we're even outsourcing our pregnancies to India!

http://www.slate.com/id/2263136/

No.269356
>>269351
Canada does it too; at least in America most surrogates are able to get compensated, so there's a number of mothers willing to do it as an extra side job while they're raising their kids. But up here, it's illegal to compensate surrogates, so strangers are a lot less willing to do it, which means it pretty much is relied on friends/family.

No.269359
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269359
>>269349
Yeah, uh, not everybody who fosters kids is like that. I used to work for a woman who fostered kids with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and I seriously could not do what she does. At any given time she would have three (the two kids she had adopted and one of her own) to seven or eight kids to take care of. Sometimes teenagers with their own kids.

The way the town works, barely anybody owns property, the business you work for owns the houses and you rent from them. Since they weren't affiliated with any of the businesses that own decent places they had to tough it out in one of the grungiest parts of town, but they made the best of it because they really cared about making things better for the kids they were taking care of. The family was only living up north in the first place because there were legal issues involved with one of the kids they were taking care of. The mother got the courts involved to decide that the family had to live close enough to her that she could visit if she wanted, and then thanked them for it by barely ever visiting and not even playing with her kid when she did. Even though giving up that kid to another family in the area would mean they could move to a nicer location down south, they weren't willing to do that. They even had a brick thrown through their window once because the parents of one of the kids Children's Aid had taken away were drunk and angry with the situation, and hey, why not take that out on the people the government handed their baby over to?

When any of them were ready to go back to their families, she'd make sure that the social workers would keep tabs on them in case they ended up in the system again. If they did, she wanted to be the one to take them in. She didn't want any of them to them feel like they weren't wanted, just that they had another home they could come to when things weren't great with their families.

I think I saw Lilo and stitch like 400 times when I worked there, it was like, every single one of the kids' absolute favourite movie and they wanted to watch it with me every time I came over.

I mean, I know there are crappy foster families out there, but they're not all like that. I had a handful of friends who went through the system and they had stories to tell from both sides of the tracks.

No.269363
>>269359
I want to be that woman when I grow up.

No.269378
>>269359
I want to be that alien when I grow up.

No.269379
>>269356
I like Canada's take on it, but not the fact that it robs opportunity if an unfortunate couple happen to like Canada but have no friends/family willing to surrogate.
I like India's lasse faireness about limiting it, but I detest that in all likelyhood, the agencies hooking them up are probably as bad as the nursing agencies my mom works for; hire a bunch of hens, pay them chicken feed (a fraction of what they should be getting), charge the clients a premium.
Now matter how you slice it, it's messy business. At least in the states they're more apt to be "self employed" about it, though some states have different rules. :\

No.269381
>>269359
;_; it's just raining on my face



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