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No. 378788
Ironically enough, the repressed, monogamous attitude toward sex and sexuality is IN NO WAY the natural human attitude. The Western attitude toward sexuality is actually closest to pure as you're going to find.
If you look at tribes of barely-civilized folks living on isolated islands and in rainforests, untainted by missionaries telling them that sex is bad and needs to be controlled, they're basically like bonobos. Everyone has sex with whomever they want to at any time, even when they're children. Having multiple orgasms a day is an expectation. They still have long-term partners and preferred partners, and only do it with friends (tough to run into strangers in such a place) so it's not a free-for-all orgy, but the point is there isn't any restriction. Given the harsh environment that humans evolved in, lots of reproduction makes sense. Given the importance of same-gender social bonding, lots of homosexuality also makes sense. All civilization is made up of is repression of natural urges. Some, like repressing murder is good; murder is a negative thing. Some, like repressing sex is not so good; sex is a positive thing.
Underneath all the bullshit, we're probably all bisexual or pansexual in a way. Most well-adjusted people, straight or gay, have joked about that one person they would "go gay" or "go straight" for, usually a popular actor or whatever. Given the chance, if there were no negative societal repercussions, wouldn't you try it at least once with the other gender than your usual preference? What are you afraid of? That it would CHANGE you...?
The only reason we feel the need to label ourselves is so we can divide into little groups where everyone knows what the rest wants, because everything sexual is repressed and concealed and not talked about in polite conversations. A guy going around wearing a label that says "I'm straight" is more comfortable than him having to rebuff advances by fags, telling them "Sorry, I don't like penis." Ideally, we would all be able to do just that. There wouldn't be any need for labels or sexual orientation, just a "yes" or "no" whenever the topic arises would suffice. Depending on your mood, you might swing for something different. Why not?
And to everyone who says they have a low sex-drive, it might be because you're compartmentalizing things too much. Most people think it's not "sex" unless it's intercourse, ie: anal/vaginal penetration. Humans are typically very sexual all the time, but it can manifest in less-obvious ways, even just with "romantic" cuddling or touching. Unless you're the type that basically never wants to be touched at all by your partner, if you want to be held and kiss and stuff like that every day (but just don't want to FUCK) then you could still have a high sex-drive, just of a different sort.
Basically, everyone is special, therefore nobody is. All labels are as meaningless as all the rest. We should just ditch the nonsense and (safely) have sex with whomever we want. If you want it today, find someone who wants it today. If you want it in three months, find someone else who is comfortable waiting that long. If you want men, get with men. If you want busty, black, leather-wearing women, find those and get to work.
Unfortunately, we do not live in a world that allows such things — at least not yet. Because of this, labels are useful because we want to be comfortable in our own little groups. The more labels the better! Myself, I am primarily a pedoandrosexual aromantic, secondarily a demisexual androromantic (well, at least when it comes to humans). And if you're like that, also, the two of us can have our own little group and say "fuck you" to the rest of the world, together.
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